Caring & Patience

I will present a comparison between being caring and patient and our selected narrative, Self-Reliance, by Ralph Waldo Emerson. In the essay, Emerson introduces a self-reliant way of thinking, in which humans are meant to learn the ways of independence and being able to develop in an influence-free environment.  He comments that not being self-reliant is a betrayal of one’s human nature and kills every inch of individuality, and also going against the ways of society. He even goes as far as to reject religious traditions because they are what is thought of correct and not what one really desires, but what is brought upon us. From this, we can infer that he is not amicable with depending too much on people, but this can’t mean to derive oneself from all human relations. He reflects by this on not being held back by people and to do what you truly want, because that is the basis of your traits and what your personality, and therefore, nature as a human, consists of. Caring for someone means you hold deep affections for their beings and you are connected to them as people. One can be self-reliant and still care for others, but when you start depriving yourself from your own personality to praise or care for others instead of focusing time on working on personal aspects you wish to better, thats when you loose a bit of  your independence. It is very easy to mistake self-reliance as isolation and rudeness, but the author never once implies you must distance yourself from others to build self-reliance, since that is born from within your mind and with its own pace. We can also take from his writing that if people care about you, they will understand the need to be self-reliant, since he writes about people not agreeing about men being nonconformist, and that one should ignore such people with such sour faces who expect you to live your life a certain way. Now, moving unto patience, through this value the points that are already made about being caring can be reinforced, since patience is an aspect understood as of being caring. Talking about the latter point, if someone cares for you, they will be patient as one builds self-reliance, because building this as a habit can be very mentally draining as it requires, as put by the author, to strip yourself from many aspects, like consistency. Being patient with people is a habit that can be built through self reliance too. In my opinion, being caring and patient with people and yourself is as important as learning how to be self-reliant, since it can lead to being completely lonely and derived from human relationships, but only being caring and patient towards other people means denying those same things to yourself, and not being able to feed or grow your person and being left without originality and the ability to think or choose for yourself. 

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